Hugh Hefner is dead after almost single handedly creating the most difficult addiction known to men, porn addiction. Women know him as a pretender to women's rights while he sexually exploited them. Most women don't understand why people are celebrating him. By addicting men to pornography, an addiction women are essentially incapable of sharing, the porn industry, which he was the leader of, has isolated women from the normal care and concern of a marital relationship including sex and admiration.

Because porn addiction leads to infantile behaviour like chronic masturbation, a woman married to a porn addict finds herself saddled with a large overgrown child who disappears often to lose control of their addiction and who spins into abusive, dangerous anti-social behaviour when they are restricted from access to their 'need.' In reality Hefner did neither gender any favours in contributing greatly to the breakdown of society's primary organizational unit, marriage and family.

A woman will tell you there is nothing nicer than curling up in front of the fireplace as it flickers and crackles providing warmth. When drawn to it visually, hypnotically, it feels safe, relaxing, romantic. But if you take the fire out of the fireplace and throw it on the living room carpet, the fire becomes a dangerous inferno and that is what porn addiction does to relationships. 

Doris Vincent is the Clinical Director of an Edmonton-based counselling service called Recovery Path that provides help for patients inflicted with sex addiction, as well as patients with other damaging addictions. Vincent has been a registered psychologist for over thirty years and believes the internet is to blame for an increase in the number of people afflicted with porn addiction, which broke out with the introduction of glossy magazines to neighbourhood stores stocked with shelves of adult-only periodicals.

It is true the portrayal of naked men and women is as old as civilization itself, Adam and Eve were naked and suddenly embarrassed when it was pointed out and they recognized it, according to opening chapters of Biblical text. Prehistoric man created figurines of nudes and rock art. Erotic sculptures or depictions are found the world over. In the ancient Hindu temples of India, on the walls of Egyptian pyramids, for example. Ancient Greeks were fascinated by statuary of the human form. But it wasn't until the Victorian Age that the concept of pornography was disseminated. 

With the invention of photography it became possible to distribute pornographic images to the public immediately upon the invention of the camera. The first motion picture was exhibited to the public at the Koster and Bials Music Hall in 1896, in America, but it wasn't long before pornographic film productions began spreading pornography, even though it was considered prurient and only conducted as a secret activity.

Half a century later, Hefner begins to construct his entire biography dedicated to the production and distribution of pornography, and it was he who brought it into the mainstream. He managed to remove barriers to production and distribution of magazines in stores, previously mailed in brown wrapper. He fought for legislation to free the distribution of naked women, and succeeded by 1955 in the United States. Other principalities followed suit in most western countries.

Along comes the early 1990`s and the internet becomes a public phenomenon with an exponential increase in the distribution of pornography to the point where 70 percent of the original use of the world wide web was to distribute pornographic images and movies. Almost immediately there was anything imaginable in sexual activity, and depravity, obtained for viewing instantaneously, and the true nature of instant gratification was unleashed.

There are three main reasons internet pornography has been more popular than any other method of distribution. It is easily accessible, people can avoid embarrassment purchasing material of a sexual nature in shops, and today they don't have to be adults. It is often free, since the public can access free material anytime of day and night, and finally, it is anonymous, nobody has to know who's using it.

So what is the 'down' side for the user? Well, studies (one in Texas) show that pornographic images damage the brain, the frontal lobe becomes as enslaved to porn imagery addiction as it does to alcohol or cocaine. The frontal lobe shrinks. Looking at porn rewires the way the brain is designed for rational thought on moral-and-value systems. Porn hijacks the pleasure system of a person's brain, affecting judgement and causing the abuser to become easily agitated and impulsive. Since the sufferer needs only turn to porn, the comforter, it is okay, and a vicious cycle of perpetual suffering is born. 

Porn has been described by some scientists as the strongest drug on the market. It is made powerful by the ability to attack and take advantage of emotional, biological and chemical connections in the brain. Pornography permeates natural urges and natural desires. Throughout the process of making love, the brain narrows its focus into releasing a tidal wave of endorphins, dopamine, norepinephrine, oxytocin and serotonin. When used the wrong way, these drugs have negative impacts on the brain and nervous system while causing addiction through repetitive visits. It is for this reason addiction to pornography should have its place with other substance abuses. It is progressive, demanding more extreme forms of sexuality to be displayed as time goes on, images of group sex, rape, bestiality, and often leading to the use of child pornography, creating a whole generation of permanently scarred individuals.

Will you love, honour, comfort, and cherish her from this day forward, forsaking all others, keeping only unto her for as long as you both shall live? Groom: I do. Will you love, honour, comfort, and cherish him from this day forward, forsaking all others, keeping only unto him for as long as you both shall live? Bride: I do.

If you got married you probably have heard these vows spoken, you have agreed to their terms, but exactly what have you agreed to?  What does forsaking all others mean? In my eyes its simple, you are one. You are now mentally, physically and spiritually joined, you must understand that you cannot allow anyone to cause division. Many people believe the term 'forsaking all others' refers simply to not having an affair. But it goes deeper, you should forsake anyone who causes trouble in your marriage be that family, friends or even co-workers.

Doris Vincent says many internet porn addicts do not think they have a problem because they are not physically cheating on their partners. But they have embraced something causing a divide in the marriage. The embrace of addictions is not limited to gambling, drinking, recreational drugs. All females are victims of pornography because it sends a message about their value being determined by physical appearance. Porn thrives on lies, women are portrayed as less human, they have no character, they are playthings, toys whose attributes are sexual organs. It's a billion dollar industry and who cares who gets hurt in the process?  Woman are not liberated by this activity, they are dehumanized. Their relationships and overall sense of self are contorted.

Reality is porn stars come from broken homes and are often victims of sexual abuse as a child. When asked, they say it is demeaning, debasing and humiliating, exploitation by people who are funded by the public demand to fulfill selfish desires turned into craven necessity. It is extremely rare for a woman to start working in the porn industry of her own free will with the intention of exhibiting herself as a sexual object. Most actresses claim to have been sexually, verbally, and physically abused. There is no such thing as a 'glamorous porn star,' they are crying and vomiting behind the curtains. An estimated 66 percent suffer from herpes and other incurable diseases. Fast forward just a couple more years and you have the end result: a completely numb individual, she wants to quit but cannot because she is now reliant on the money to feed a spiraling drug habit.

Furthermore in a society where the president of the United States runs around grabbing strange women by the 'pussy,' all teenage girls are victims of the pornography industry. There is a certain point where they become sensitive and impressionable to outside stimuli. When their brains cellular memory and neural pathways are set for life, they are sent messages by this industry. Pornography changes attitudes of self-esteem, and emotions, forever. Increasingly girls are suffering from anorexia or going under the knife for procedures such as breast enlargement or nose jobs. 

These girls are dissatisfied with their own appearance. They are taught their value equates breast size and physical appearance, that men are only interested in voluptuous females and spurious sex or, as often as not, taking pictures of them from the internet. This has led to a society of females who believe acceptance from males comes from a chimeric form of beauty or demand for sexual attention, leading to a rise in teenage pregnancies and suicides. This rewiring of female brains will continue to provide new porn victims.

The effects of pornography on females does not end there. Many scholars note women who feel betrayed by their partners addiction to pornography experience symptoms of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).  This is the case when they are left to discover 'betrayal' for themselves. These women are plagued by feelings of inadequacy and powerlessness. Most complain of suffering intrusive thoughts and memories. The stress felt by these women results in eating disorders, traumatic flashbacks, feelings of utmost hopelessness, regular crying spells, and physical exhaustion, desperate loneliness, abandonment. 

The behavior patterns of women change as they become angry, depressed and self-loathing. They become hyper-vigilant, obsessing over contents on their partners phone, activity online or details of pornography use. The pain these women feel is increased by it being a private matter, so they are unable to discuss how they feel with anybody who would listen. These women feel isolated, a fact proven by the amount of online support available to women where they can discuss this pain privately and without humiliation. Studies prove that emotional expression is a very important step to their recovery.

Meanwhile, a few women rest easy knowing the father of modern porn addiction was mortal after all, and not a fantasy. He got old, decrepid, and, eventually, released from the mortal coil. While he may or may not be able to rest in peace, one thing is for sure, the emperor of porn is dead.​

Hefner the Emperor of Porn Addiction is Dead